14 February is notoriously a romantic day; flowers, chocolates, cuddly toys are purchased and an estimated £880M is spent on such gifts.
So is 14 February the most romantic day of the year? Sadly, if you are reaching the 4th year of marriage I have some sad news. Research shows that after three years and six months couples start taking each other for granted and the romance fades. A poll, commissioned by Co-operative Food asked 2,000 married adults and this is the time when the marriage loses its spark. Kate Jones states “This research shows once they’ve tied the knot, it’s all too easy for couples to start getting complacent and start taking each other for granted. Once the honeymoon period is over, couples often let bad habits take over and forget to go the extra mile to make each other happy.”
The positive point to come out of the research was that despite feeling being taken for granted, 2/3 of those polled said they felt their marriage was strong and around 75% said that this was in fact normal.
So, it doesn’t look like those in their 4th year of marriage will be heading for the divorce courts just yet.
And, in case you are interested, the research goes on to list 50 signs of being taken for granted. I won’t list the entire 50 here (but happy to provide if required) but have selected a few of them:-
• You forget to say “I love you” everyday
• Go to bed at different times
• Dressing down in tracksuit bottoms before the other half gets home
• No longer bothering with Valentine’s Day and anniversaries
• You stop shaving your legs so often (girls only I assume)
• Watching TV or using the mobile halfway through a conversation with you
• Getting vouchers or cash for birthdays instead of choosing a present
If you feel you need some advice from one of our family team, please contact me. Justine is a partner and head of the Family team at Clarion and can be contacted on 0113 336 3323 and email firstname.lastname@example.org
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