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Straight-talking Bride-to-Be, or 'gold-digging' wannabe?


The internet plays a huge part in most peoples’ lives these days and it is not uncommon for interesting articles or stories to go ‘viral’. In addition to this, the advent of ‘online dating’ has made it increasingly possible to ‘shop around’ for a suitable partner and set out your relationship requirements.

As a combination of the above, I was very interested to read online an interesting story about a 25 year old female who set out her (quite clear) goals on what she was seeking in a relationship. According to the article, the individual’s advert on a dating forum detailed her ‘good looks, good style and good taste’. Her ‘wish list’ focussed on finding an individual with a salary of $500,000.00 per annum or more, who would be willing to marry her. She asked any suitable candidates for tips on what she should do to enhance the chances of her marrying a rich person with the requisite income, and also queried why most of the richer men she had come across, had wives that were only ‘average looking and dull’. She asked one final question, which was how the richer men made the decision about who can be their wife and who can only be their girlfriend.

Whilst I am a definite advocate of the philosophy ‘honesty is the best policy’, this level of brutal honesty/ transparency when looking for a suitable partner is perhaps not to be recommended- the individual in question here made clear that her ONLY motivation was financial. Trying to put a positive spin on this, at least her dating forum advert does set out clearly the girl’s financial aims were she to enter into a relationship, and this level of clarity is something missing in many relationships. Being able to set parameters at the outset of a relationship, to clarify each party’s financial aims and obligations, can at least help to avoid problems as/ when the relationship breaks down. Going one step further, this sort of clarity could be beneficially recorded in a pre-nuptial or post-nuptial agreement where parties’ detail who owns what and what would happen on their separation.

Even more amusing than the advert posted by this individual, is the response allegedly received from the CEO of a major company. The CEO highlighted that he easily fit into the ‘criteria’ specified by the individual, but as a professional investor he drew comparisons between a bad investment and the prospect of marriage to this individual. He explained that a business person would see it as a very bad decision to marry her, as the exchange of beauty for money is imbalanced. Whilst her beauty will fade (depreciation) his income/ capital position is only likely to improve, so from an economical point of view, an investor would choose not to invest in her long term, and if anything she will only be a ‘short term lease’!

If you need any advice relating to financial matters arising from a prospective new relationship, please do not hesitate to contact Justine Osmotherley from our Family team on 0113 336 3323 or by email at justine.osmotherley@clarionsolicitors.com

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