Some research, commissioned by Monarch Airlines reveal the top 50 signs a relationship is serious, and that you are now in fact in a relationship, rather than just being friends!
Although it was a seriously significant amount of time ago that I last dated (having been in the lucky position of being happily married for some time!) I can still remember those awkward moments early on in a relationship when it is unclear how serious the other party is about the relationship.
I was therefore really interested to read some research commissioned by Monarch Airlines who commissioned a study of around 2000 people. The survey revealed the top 50 signs a relationship is serious, and that you are now in fact in a relationship, rather than just being friends!
Whilst I do not intend to list all 50, quite a few were interesting in revealing what people do to decide that the relationship has become more than casual dating. Some of them are fairly obvious such as saying ‘I love you’, putting a picture of the two of you on Facebook and in fact changing the Facebook relationship status to “in a relationship”. Others, perhaps ones that people, taken separately, may not read too much into but, put together, may make a person decide this is a serious relationship.
Some of the signs include
• Meeting the parents;
• Divulging salary details, pin number, passwords etc.;
• Listening to music/watching TV shows they like;
• Having clothes and other belongings at the other’s house, sometimes even having a drawer at each other’s house;
• Discussing how many children you might want in the future;
• Leaving a toothbrush at each other’s house.
Whilst this research was very interesting, it is of course important, from a matrimonial lawyer’s point of view, to bear in mind what happens when the relationship does get more serious and you move in together as a cohabiting couple. It is a myth that after a certain length of time you become “common law husband and wife”. However, we would always advise those moving in together to consider making a cohabitation agreement, that sets out the terms of the relationship and who should own what. Whilst such documents may seem unromantic, we tend to find that in the event that a relationship should break down, these documents really help as they set out exactly who gets what on separation. In the majority of cases, they will never be used as the parties continue in their relationship. However, a little bit of planning in the early stages could often save a whole lot of heartache, stress and money should the relationship not work out.
If you are in a cohabiting relationship and would like advice on a cohabitation agreement, or indeed if you are going through the break down of a cohabiting relationship, please do not hesitate to contact me, on a no obligation basis, to explore your options.
Justine is a Partner in the Family Team at Clarion Solicitors and Head of Private Client Services. She can be contacted by telephone on 0113 336 3323 or by email firstname.lastname@example.org
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