A recent survey revealed that 54% of divorcees had second thoughts about whether, in fact, they had made the right decision.
It is an incredibly difficult decision to make as to whether to formally end a marriage. When we marry, we make our vows “to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.” Yet choosing to end a marriage, goes against these vows and is not an easy decision to make. Interestingly, 40% of couples did in fact try to reconcile and some of those are still together now.
The research went on to list the 10 reasons for regretting a divorce and these are:
1. I miss my ex-partner
2. I still love my ex-partner
3. I felt like a failure
4. I felt lonely
5. I realised I was being unreasonable
6. I discovered the ‘grass isn’t greener’
7. My ex-partner has found someone new
8. I realised I’m not better off on my own
9. It has damaged my/my partner’s relationship with our children
10. My children’s lives have been affected
The reasons listed above are natural consequences of a relationship ending but do show why it is so important to think carefully about the decision to end the marriage or relationship, as often there is no going back after the discussion has taken place with the other partner. We often see clients who have not quite decided whether their marriage/relationship is over or not. Sometimes a little advice can help save the relationship and we have really good contacts with experts, such as Counsellors; Child Mediators; Coaches etc who we can put clients in contact with to help cope during this very difficult time.
<p justify;"="">Justine Osmotherley is a Partner and Head of Private Client Services at Clarion Solicitors, telephone 0113 336 3323, email email@example.com
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